And take this seriously. You never know who would want to ask these questions and are too embarrassed to ask or something. Please be respectful in your answers.
I mean think about it. If you had a son, what would you tell him about teenage pregnancy? How would you try to deter him away from it?What do young males need to do to avoid teenage pregnancy?
Take responsibility for yourself. Don't ever assume that the girl is on BC, and have a condom at all times.
I would tell him to try not to give into the pressures of having sex for the sake of having it, but if he does to be as safe as he possibly can. I would teach my children (boy or girl) what sex is, where babies come from, and how to be responsible.What do young males need to do to avoid teenage pregnancy?
Honestly, I don't think that many teenage boys are lining up to be fathers. I would tell him that teenage pregnancy is preventable, and having a child so early can limit his plans for his life. Many guys that age are afraid of the responsibility of being a parent, so it's not that big of a stretch to put the fear of god in him, so to speak. Also, I would tell him to use a condom each and every single time he has sex, and to ask that the girl he's with be on the pill or some other form of birth control. On top of that, I would tell him about the morning-after pill option, in case the condom breaks. It wouldn't hurt for him to be able to suggest it. In the end, I would love and support him no matter what happens, but I would still expect him to take responsibility for any child he helps create. I would also make this clear to him from the outset. Finally, I would tell him that if he does get a girl pregnant, he needs to try to be supportive and mature. Real men don't walk away from their children, the same as real women. Cheers!
As in my other answer...instilling a sense of self esteem and personal responsibility is the foundation. Providing accurate medical information and discussing the emotional side of sexual relationships puts it in context for him. He needs to understand that if he participated in the creation of a pregnancy, he will be connected to the young woman for at least 18 years, whether he likes her or not. Boys need to be taught that while sex may seem recreational for them, it is NOT recreational for the girls.
Condoms are a MUST - to protect both of them. Some boys are reluctant to buy them ( I won't speculate as to why...) , so giving them to the boy is one way to make sure he has access to them.
And most teens (boys %26amp; girls both) need to be told the same thing over and over and over again to make it sink in.
Honesty and openness. Sex isn't something to sweep under the rug and not talk about just because you're embarassed to discuss it with your children or you feel the school will do an adequate job of it...its a parent's job to make sure their kids now what their options for sex are...even if they don't agree with it.
If I had a teenage son I'd let him know my personal feelings regarding teenage sex, but I wouldn't judge him; if he decided he was ready to have sex then I'd help him prevent any pregnancies in any way possible (cough, cough, supply him with condoms).
Teenage pregnancies are avoidable... it's usually when their is a lack of communication between teens and parents that something goes wrong.
If you're the parent in this situation, be real and don't nag or guilt. Most likely your actions in raising him thus far will really do the talking. Nevertheless, talk to him as another adult. Tell him to be safe and do it for the right reasons if he must. Always wear a condom, even if she says she's on b/c, and not just to prevent pregnancy but std's as well. Carefully, not preachingly, inform him of just how much a pregnancy can cost him. Whether he is the father figure, pays child support, or has an abortion, it's all expensive. That means he needs his own place, definately a job and a car...it all adds up to loss of money and loss of lots of freetime. And when it's Friday night and there's an awesome party-he'll have to stay home if he can't find a babysitter.
I would make sure he knows how pregnancy happens. I would teach him that sex is a precious gift, and he needs to save it for marriage (we believe premarital sex is wrong, so that's what our kids will learn when they're old enough). I'd tell him about the realities of teenage parenthood. I'd teach him that he needs to respect his girlfriend and not pressure her to get physical - it is up to him to keep himself in line. I would make sure he isn't being fed a steady diet of sexual imagery - no sex scenes in movies, no sexual songs, no porn, no hanging with dirty little teens who can't talk of anything but sex and perverted things, etc. Those things can really inflame a teenage guy, and I think that being without that influence makes it easier to control one's thoughts and desires.
Then, when he has a girlfriend, they wouldn't be allowed to go off alone all the time. No hanging in each other's bedrooms. No huggiing and kissing and snuggling. Very few ';alone'; dates - group dates are preferred. Chaperones are readily available for the two of them. That sort of thing. I've seen all these things done before and it works great!
you cant as much for a guy unless he always wears condoms. its much worse for a guy than a girl cause the girl is in control of what happens to her and can lie about being on the pill etc
I have 3 teenage sons...I tell them
1. don't get any girl pregnant before age 18 because you might be charged with rape and I don't want to be involved in rescuing you
2. in fact don't have sex that could lead to pregnancy before you are age 18 because I don't want or need to deal with it
3. use a condom every time!!! Don't ever trust a girl to use contraception
In the US, a child that attends some sort of collage/university will cost the parent(s) at least $250,000 from birth to graduation. You my son will have to pay a minimum of half ($125,000), no matter what the mother does or says, you may not even be able to see the child. If you do not pay, you can go to prison.
That if he was going to have sex, always wear protection. Educate him that pregnancy is not the only thing that could threaten his childhood and for the rest of his life-STD's are worse. If it did happen reguardless I would be there for him and have him know he should never be ashamed or afraid to talk to me.
Men can assume that seeing as she is the one that gets pregnant that she knows what she's doing if keen for unprotected ie. knows she is using something reliable or at least, knows she is not ovulating. I'd warn him about not making assumptions and make sure he usnderstands that in the event of a pregnancy, he has few rights and choices.
Give your son a first had experience of what it would be like to raise a child.Find a close family friend who might volunteer their child (with their supervision of course), and make your son take care of the baby, change their diapers and feed them for a week.
dont f@ck
ok ok taking it seriously
Have him babysit a couple of sick babies or toddlers for a couple of hours. Then buy him some condoms. Then pray he uses them!
You shouldn't need to deter him away from it. If you bring up a normal child they don't want to get into teen pregnancy. it's quite simple, use protection.
Abstinence. Sorry guys...
Abstain or spooge on the chicks face.
Don't believe her when she says she's on the pill. Wear a condom.
don't have sex??
just maybe.
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